Repentance and forgiveness…a beginning

tamfsWe convey to you the request of Rev. Marc Benton for forgiveness in bringing forth the  charges and legislation that  produced Benton v. Hudson River, et al. We also refer to Rev.  Benton’s newly stated support for same gender marriage. In so doing, we  acknowledge  his courage and commitment in taking responsibility for his role in the harm, pain and  suffering produced by his earlier  actions.

We also acknowledge South Presbyterian Church’s Session and pastors, Joe Gilmore and Susan De George, for their ongoing commitment to the LGBTQ/Q community when Rev. Benton insisted that they be investigated and charged for doing same-gender commitment services. It is such faithful perseverance by these folks and others that are at the heart of the changes we are witnessing today.

We stand firmly alongside, deeply indebted and thankful to everyone who has ever been hurt, harmed, punished or pushed away because of Benton v. Hudson River, et al or any of the other charges, hearing, rulings and deep anguish caused by such actions. We are here to do whatever we can in healing, reconciliation and moving forward so that such actions and harms never happen again.

We pray that Rev. Benton’s decision and forthrightness will prompt others to step up, acknowledging their roles in the harm caused our community and making amends for their participation in decades of marginalization and exclusion of our Christian sisters and brothers. We encourage and support all who seek assistance in moving forward on this path, and we will never forget the suffering and pain of others whose lives are the foundation for these changes.

The toughest road, we think, is ahead. This journey for healing will only be complete when the church accepts its responsibility, admits the harms it has done, and makes amends for the teachings and prohibitions it has supported and allowed in the discrimination of our Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Questioning community.  With recent changes to the Book of Order and those currently under consideration, we feel the church is also charged with taking an active and corporate role in facilitating these changes. We are ready to support such efforts, as well.

“Redemption appears as the liberty to interpret in trust…
all that happens to us and to which we react as occurring in a final context
of life giving rather than death-dealing.”  H. Richard Niebuhr, The Responsible Self

When we can witness to one another and  the world our faithfulness to the Gospel and all it requires us to be in love for one another, then perhaps redemption to which we are called will achieve its life-giving purpose.


Ray Bagnuolo

Cover page from the Hudson River Presbytery September 9, 2014

The Rev. Marc Benton, the pastor who brought the suit Benton v. Hudson River Presbytery that defined PC(USA)’s distinction between marriage and holy unions, has repented of his position and is seeking forgiveness from the members of the Hudson River Presbytery.

At Rev. Benton’s request, the Hudson River Presbytery has prepared this press release and is sharing his statement with the wider church.

Attached, please find a the release and Rev. Benton’s statement.

Rev. Benton’s statement has been shared with members of the Hudson River Presbytery and he will be joining our presbytery at its regular meeting in September.

1) Statement from Rev. Susan Andrews, Executive Presbyter; Hudson River Presbytery

2) Rev. Marc Benton’s Statement


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Remembering Mark Palermo


In Memoriam: Mark Alan Palermo, 1952-2015
A Memorial Service for Mark Will Be Held at
Lincoln Park Presbyterian Church, 600 W. Fullerton, Chicago, IL 60614
 on Saturday, October 3rd at 4:00 pm

MarkOne unique thing about Mark Palermo was that he knew every street in Chicago. No, I don’t mean he knew all the major streets; he knew every single street in every part of the city. Whenever I came across a street that was new to me, I would quiz him the next time I saw him: “Hey Mark, do you know where Clover Street is?” Mark would reply something like this: “Yes, Clover Street is 4614 West and runs from 4000 North to 4068 North.” You see, when Mark was growing up, his dad worked for the post office and Mark would pour over city postal maps, using his photographic memory to amass knowledge of Chicago streets that few others, if any, ever have.

On August 10, Chicago lost the person with this amazing bit of knowledge…the Chicago Public School System lost one of its dedicated former teachers…and the Presbyterian Church (USA) lost one of its most faithful members with an incredible record of service… when Mark Alan Palermo died suddenly of a heart attack at his Chicago home. He was 62.

Mark grew up in the Roseland Presbyterian Church on Chicago’s south side. In 1976, when his family moved to the south suburbs, he was one of the founders of the Orland Park Presbyterian Church, and served as Clerk of Session. He was also a member of the Presbytery of Chicago’s Church & Society Committee where he underwent a trans-formation that led him to develop a strong concern for social justice. “I was really very naïve when I was first on that committee,” Mark said. “My eyes were opened to the needs of marginalized people on the fringes of society.” In 1983, at the age of 30, Mark became the Moderator of the Presbytery, the youngest person ever to be so elected. Mark later became a member of Lincoln Park Presbyterian Church (LPPC) in Chicago (1988-2001), and at Fourth Presbyterian Church in Chicago (2001-2015).

Much of Mark’s life revolved around education. In 1974, he graduated with high honors from Chicago State University, receiving a Bachelor’s Degree in Education with an emphasis in English and Spanish. Mark went on to become a career Chicago public school teacher. He first taught at Carver High School in Chicago’s Riverdale neighborhood from 1974 to 1980, and then was transferred to Senn High School in the Edgewater community where he taught English as a Second Language from 1980 to 1994. In this position, he worked with many refugee children, teaching both language and socialization skills. Mark said, “Many came from rural communities and had no knowledge of urban life. They needed to learn the value of money, books and other personal property. And I taught them how to get around the city. There is often tension between these young people who are highly motivated to become acclimated and their parents who want to hold on to traditional ways.”

From 1994 until his retirement in 2008, Mark served as Senn’s attendance coordinator where he maintained records for 1,500 students, worked with high-risk students to resolve truancy issues, and acted as a liaison to provide services to 70 homeless students. For a time, Mark was President of Senn’s Parent Teacher Student Association. Mark would also save up his vacation days, and with his principal’s permission, take off the last one or two weeks of every school year to attend the Presbyterian national General Assembly.

Despite his busy schedule with the school system, for many years Mark worked on Saturdays at a hardware store in Roseland.

Although I remember Mark as a fellow church member during the years he attended LPPC, my most vivid memories of him are from our involvement together in the More Light movement within the Presbyterian Church. Mark was truly one of the pioneers of this movement. In 1977, Mark was a commissioner to the General Assembly and there met LPPC’s David Sindt (the founder of the Presbyterian Gay Caucus in 1974) and other early leaders of the fledgling effort to promote the inclusion and full membership rights of LGBTQ Presbyterians. Mark was moved by what he experienced and felt he could no longer be silent about the exclusion of and discrimination against people on the basis of their sexual orientation.

I actually first met Mark in the early 1980s when the Chicago chapter of what was then called Presbyterians for Lesbian/Gay Concerns (PLGC) held its monthly meetings at LPPC, at that time, the only Presbyterian congregation in Chicago that would host such a group.

Mark held many leadership positions within PLGC over the years. He was the long-time local treasurer, helped organize the PLGC Midwinter Conference held at LPPC in 1985, and coordinated the monthly fellowship dinners for many years which were crucial for “being church” and providing mutual support. Nationally, he served on the PLGC Executive Board from 1986-1992, and on the organizing committee for the More Light Churches Network, which was founded in 1992 at the More Light Churches Conference held at LPPC. During all this time, Mark was known for his caring and wisdom in counseling many LGBTQ people who were struggling to find their place in the church. He faithfully worked for the day when all of Christ’s sisters and brothers would be welcomed fully and joyfully into the Presbyterian Church.

That is why I am so glad that Mark was able to join the gathering in April at Stony Point, NY for the Rock Stars and Prophets Conference which included many of the early leaders of the More Light movement. The purpose of the conference was to celebrate our victories in ordination rights and marriage equality that have become reality in our denomination, and to tell our stories to a new generation of leaders, as well as to work to preserve the history of this remarkable movement. Mark was interviewed at the conference and you can see that short video at

Mark Palermo (left) with former LPPC Seminary Assistant Lisa Bove, and David Sindt, at a PLGC Chicago meeting, 1985.

Mark Palermo (left) with former LPPC Seminary Assistant Lisa Bove, and David Sindt, at a PLGC Chicago meeting, 1985.

Barry Smith, former LPPC Parish Associate Stuart Smith, and Mark Palermo (right) proudly carrying the LPPC Banner at the March on Washington for Lesbian/Gay Rights, 1987.

Barry Smith, former LPPC Parish Associate Stuart Smith, and Mark Palermo (right) proudly carrying the LPPC Banner at the March on Washington for Lesbian/Gay Rights, 1987.

Mark was always an on-the-go guy. In addition to all his regular commitments, he enjoyed travel, concerts, theater, local history, and trying new restaurants with friends. In retirement, he spent summers in Chicago and winters in Palm Springs, CA. His many friendships across so many constituencies are a testament to his character and the values he held and lived. Although it is sad that Mark left us earlier than we would have hoped, he packed more living into his 62 years than many of us would be able to do in twice as much time.

Mark was preceded in death by his mother, Phyllis (2014), and his partner, John Klein (1991). He is survived by his father, Emil, and his sister, Eileen Boehler, both of Rockford, IL, and many other relatives and friends. A memorial service was held in Rockford on September 12, and another service will be held at Lincoln Park Presbyterian Church on October 3. Mark’s ashes will be interred at the Desert Memorial Park in Cathedral City, CA. A guestbook to share your memories of Mark is on line at

Barry Smith
Lincoln Park Presbyterian Church, Chicago
(including information from “Getting To Know You” by Anne Hunt in LPPC’s Update, December 1988.)

You can download “In Memoriam: Mark Alan Palermo, 1952 – 2015” in its original formatting for inserts or printing. Thank you, Barry.

Here is Mark’s interview in Aril
from Rock Stars and Prophets: Generations of Justice and Love:

See more on the Interviews page.


Mark A. Palermo October 24, 1952 - August 10, 2015

Mark Alan Palermo, Chicago, Illinois
October 24, 1952 – August 10, 2015

Dear Friends, I am saddened to share the news that Mark left this world on August 10, 2015.

Many of us renewed ties with Mark or met him for the first time at our Stony Point Center gathering in April, Rock Stars and Prophets: Generations of Justice and Love.

Many of us also knew Mark from his early work with PGC/PLGC; More Light Churches Network, and the eventual formation of More Light Presbyterians​.

He was one of the original rock stars and prophets of the movement in the Presbyterian Church (USA) for equality and full-welcoming of our Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning and Queer (LGBTQ) community. We are so grateful to him, as we are to all who walked with and since Mark in the gospel we share.

With all our hearts, especially in this time of sadness,  we celebrate Mark’s life with our love and remembrances. We extend our condolences to Mark’s family and one another, with the prayers and love of a community of thousands. A community whose lives are better today because of the time Mark spent with us on this planet.

We welcome his presence and guidance from his new “residence” and invite those who might like to hear his interview from April, to do so below.

We send Mark forth with our love and gratitude from this broad family of ours, into the next realm of the God who loves us – here and beyond here.

Mark Palermo’s Interview at Rock Stars and Prophets: Generations of Justice and Love

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